How to approach a girl at school Reddit

I am a shy guy and I usually don't talk to girls that much. I promised myself that I was going to be more sociable this school year and I'm in need for advice.

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Sorry man, but it's going to be really tough as a 35 year old.

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I think some of them might accept some free candy I have in my white van.

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I came here to say, "don't be 40", but ya beat me to the punch!

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How do you start a casual conversation with your guy friends?

The next time you want to talk to a girl about something, imagine how you would have that conversation if you were telling one of your male friends. If you have a general idea of what you want to say, that should help you get over any nervousness.

It's ok to be nervous on the inside, all you have to do is seem confident.

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Yes keep in mind that girls are people as well.

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Keep in mind that I'm still immature, so I wouldn't talk to girls about the same things I talk to my guy friends, but I'll try to be more confident.

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Just be a friend! Please don't approach girls by flirting with them. Especially since you aren't experienced with talking to girls at all, take some time to just have girl friends. Otherwise, no offense, you'll probably make a lousy boyfriend. Just keep an eye out for easy conversation starters. Make jokes about lectures in class, or just kindly introduce yourself. Trust me, I befriended my current boyfriend back in seventh grade, and now we're college freshman and have been dating for a year. Friendship first! You can do it!

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I will never approach a girl by flirting with her. I am too afraid of rejection :( I'm a funny guy once people get to know me, but at first I'm really shy.

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Just be a friend!

The problem with that is it sets the precedent for friendship. A lot of guys can't seem to get a girlfriend after that girl is used to being their friend.

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Just make conversation like you do with boys, but maybe not about video games or bathroom humor (unless you've gauged that she's into it- she might be!). Possible topics include talking about a class you're in together, your teachers, school events, current events, movies, tv, something funny that happened to you recently, etc. Just normal stuff you'd talk about with anyone else.

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A witty comment about something you have in common with her, and if she responds positively, small talk. Then say hi in passing. Eventually a conversation that starts out about class will turn into one about your personal lives, and after that it's smooth sailing.

Elevator talk gets me to many places these days, it's ridiculous.

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This question has white van and lost puppies screaming all over.

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From grades 9-11 in high school, I was just like you. Hilarious, but shy until you got to know me. My senior year, I decided fuck that and I opened up to everyone. I joked with the teachers. I laughed with my friends. I made everyone laugh. And you know what happened? The girls approached me. I understand this doesn't really answer your question, but think about that for a while.

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How did you go 3 years like that? I only lasted one before I wised up.