I just snooped through her smartphone reddit

Saw her phone sitting in the bathroom while taking care of some business. Couldnt help but look and I didnt need to look very far. The most recent conversation was with a guy that went like this:

Him: i want a bj right now, and i have more than a mouthful for you

Her: Im sure you do ;)

Him: That what happens when you get a little and want some more!

Im laying in bed next to her and dont want to wake her up with invading her privacy and accusing her of cheating. What's the best approach to handle this without looking like an absolute asshole for going through her phone?

I (25M) have been with my girlfriend (F23) for going on two years now. Everything is great and we moved in together in July. She says she wants to marry me and I bought her a very nice "promise" ring on her recent birthday. Signifying our love.

Back in June I noticed this guy "Dave" she used to be friends with was now her top friend on Snapchat. It showed that they sent pictures on the app for 50 or some days straight. I give my s/o a hard time about this because I have never met Dave or remember my girlfriend ever seeing him. I am assured he is just a friend that she would never do anything sexual with.

I like anyone in my shoes, had suspicions. Fast forward to tonight and while my s/o is asleep I go into her phone. My morbid curiosity takes me to text messages shard between herself and Dave. These texts date back to July as previous ones have been deleted.

There are 3 text conversations that are very concerning the first goes as follows. GF: "Wow....so sorry about last night. I would hate me if I were you."

D:hahaha noooo, I know you had been drinking, all good.

D:I was sober and I know you had been drinking. I don't do that, I didn't want you to do something you'd regret today.

GF:I just wanted to drink with you. Me and other girl missed you. You're a gooood guy.

D: Miss you too haha I try sometimes

GF:I know you are. But hey maybe drunk words are sober thoughts.

That's conversation number 1

2 about 2 weeks later

D: let's fuck D: I need you D: I need some pussy D: I'm embarrassed Nothing came of this one but obviously he isn't the white knight referenced to in the first conversation.

3 about 3 weeks later

GF:Just wanted to see what's up that's all. D: at work just started the night shift GF: I'm at friends house I wanted to drink D: wish I could join have fun GF: you always play hard to get haha

My head is spinning. The last conversation was about a month ago. Nothing since but he is still her best friend on Snapchat. I don't know what to do please help!!

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Me (21) and my girlfriend (20) have been together for almost three years this come January. She has recently started being friends with a good guy friend, that she was friends with before we started dating, and got into a relationship. They had feelings for each other years ago, and she swears that she no longer has those feelings for him, and she tells me the he doesn’t like her either. Otherwise she said that she would be with him right now, and not me. Well lying has never been one of her things, so I believed her. But last night my paranoia kicked in overdrive, and I did something that I regret doing. I went on her iPad to see if I could read their texts between each other, but nothing was on their. So I attempted to turn them back on, but in the process, sent a notification to her phone, which alerted her. Well she asked if I tried to turn on messages on her iPad, and I lied to her, but she knew that I was lying so I told the truth, and she got upset and left to stay with her girlfriend for the time being. I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do at this point. I obviously don’t want us to end, but I have a feeling it’s going to.

My girlfriend (25F) and I (21M) who are classmates have been dating for about 6 weeks and are exclusive. Our relationship has been great so far and have gone on lots of dates and overnight trips. She has even met my family. She always mentions how I have always been the one for her as we have so much in common and she can't wait for us to get our own place together.

Heres the issue...

I remember when we first started dating that she mentioned to me that she was previously in a short-term long distance relationship with some famous IG bodybuilder who lives in another country but never met him (this guy has around 600k followers and is good looking) but it quickly ended when the guy said he wanted to marry her asap and she got turned off and apparently stopped talking to him. 2 weeks ago, I randomly brought him up once again and she laughed it off and said "oh I stopped talking to him and already unfollowed him on IG" which she did. Even though its hard for me to believe that she would cut out someone like that as I know girls LOVE attention, I happen to see a bunch of nudes of this guy hidden in her phone , then I got suspicious and saw that she video calls him on this private messaging app around once a week and has her messages archived and hidden.

The last they video chatted was 3 days ago for a total of 44 minutes.

Now I know I shouldn't be looking through my gf's phone but I don't want to have my girlfriend invest her time and put her energy into two guys at the same time so I wanted to see what was up.

now...

I obviously don't want to bring it up since she will know I was snooping on her phone.

what do I do?