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Answer: Recently a friend of mine told me a similar story about her husband suddenly suing for divorce while she was clueless. It is not unusual for people to miss the signals. Often, that is referred to as denial. You may have seen the signals about your husband, but, you denied them because it was too painful. Remember, the weekend you went to dinner and the movies, you said that things were tense. Apparently, you overlooked the tension that was affecting the two of you. It is extremely difficult to improve a marriage if one of the partners fails to communicate and refuses to go to marriage counseling. He seems to have made up his mind about divorce. What is troubling is that you do not seem to have any idea what his complaint are about the marriage. In fact, you write that you could have helped him if he had discussed marriage problems with you. You are assuming that the problems are all his. However, he seems to want a divorce because there are things about the marriage with which he has been unhappy a long time. In other words, you could not have helped him but you could have worked with him to improve your relationship. From what he tells you, his mind is made up and he wants a divorce. It is never possible to force another person to change their mind, particularly when they never told you that anything was wrong. I do not like saying this because I believe in marriage but, in my opinion, you have to move on. Having said that, I am not sure that moving out of your house was a good idea. I am not an attorney and you must hire a lawyer whose expertise is divorce. After all, you may have a claim to part of the value of the house because the two of you are married. However, I am only raising a question. I believe that its in your best interests to seek the guidance and help of a lawyer so that your rights are protected throughout the procedings. I suspect that it would be a good idea for you to enter psychotherapy for yourself. Divorce is a wrenching experience that takes a heavy toll on emotions. Psychotherapy can help you get through the crisis and help you understand what may have happened. Best of Luck More "Ask Dr. Schwartz" View Columnists Can I change his mind about divorce?You Can Withdraw a Divorce Petition
If a couple changes their mind about divorcing and want to remain married, they can withdraw their divorce petition to stop the process before it begins.
How can I get my mind off divorce?Coping With Separation And Divorce. Recognize that it's OK to have different feelings. ... . Give yourself a break. ... . Don't go through this alone. ... . Take care of yourself emotionally and physically. ... . Avoid power struggles and arguments with your spouse or former spouse. ... . Take time to explore your interests. ... . Think positively.. Can you stop a divorce after filing in WV?You can cancel a divorce in West Virginia if you are the petitioner. If you have submitted paperwork and started legal action, then you can file a petition with the court to dismiss the case. If you haven't filed paperwork yet, then you don't need to do anything.
Can you cancel a divorce in Oklahoma?Once a divorce is filed in Oklahoma and one party wants to go through with it, you can't stop it from happening in the court system. Your only hope is to convince your spouse to consider reconciliation.
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