Who are the friends of Jesus?

Anyone who has ever been in church is familiar with the hymn, “What a Friend We Have in Jesus.” It was written by a son to comfort his mother whom he had left behind in Ireland when he came to the United States in the 1850s.
According to the hymn, Jesus is our friend because he bears our burdens and sorrows.

The hymn writer wrote the hymn to assure his mother that though he couldn’t be there with her, Jesus is with her and he is a friend like no other.

He asks, “Can we find a friend so faithful, who will all our sorrows share?”

Yes, we have a friend in Jesus, but the question I want to ask: Does Jesus have a friend in me? Am I the friend of Jesus?

Jesus says to his disciples gathered with him in the upper room: “I no longer call you servants, because servants do not know their master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything I learned from my Father I have made known to you” (John 15:15).

It sounds like a promotion, doesn’t it? Going from servant to friend. Being a servant, however, is not a bad thing.

In fact, being a servant of God is always a high honor in the biblical tradition. It’s very likely that Jesus thought of himself as God’s Servant after the manner of the Servant Songs in the book of Isaiah.

Certainly, his first followers made that connection.

Jesus embodied the life of God’s Servant and taught his disciples to do the same. This is surely at the heart of what the feet washing is about in John 13.

When Peter objects to Jesus washing his feet, Jesus says to him, “Unless I wash you, you have no part with me” (John 13:8). Jesus is saying, “Unless you allow me to teach you how to be a servant, you cannot share in my mission, you cannot be about what I am about.” 

Maybe friendship with Jesus is a kind of relationship that we have to grow into. Perhaps it is a stage of discipleship that is not a given, but a relationship that we must nurture and develop.

Until we learn how, with some humility, to be a servant of one another, to wash one another’s feet, we cannot enter with Jesus into that next stage of discipleship.

Until I can say, “Yes, I am my brother and sister’s keeper. I have a responsibility to my sisters and brothers in the human family. I am a servant of all,” then I cannot share in a friendship that is a partnership in the kingdom of God.

When Jesus says to his disciples, “Everything I have learned from my Father I have made known to you,” what is he talking about?

Jesus is certainly not talking about a mere sharing of information. Surely he is talking about a relationship, a shared intimacy, a sharing of God’s passion and heart for the world.

This is why Jesus can say, “You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit – fruit that will last” (John 15:16).

This fruit is what flows from our lives quite naturally when we abide in Christ, when we share Christ’s heart, love and passion for the world.

To be a friend of Jesus is to share and bear the intimate knowledge of God’s love and passion for the world. It is to share in what God is doing and how God is doing it.

The fruit of friendship with Christ consists of acts of peacemaking, works of forgiveness and reconciliation and restorative justice, deeds of healing and compassion.

This is why Jesus could say, “You are my friends if you do what I command.” And, of course, what Jesus commands is love (John 15:12,17)

Friendship with Jesus is both a wonderful gift and a terrible burden. It’s an immense joy to be able to share first-hand experience of God’s great love for the world. It’s also a crushing weight.

This burden is hard to explain. Perhaps the best analogy is a mother’s love. A loving mother suffers with her suffering child and would gladly bear the suffering herself if she could. The loving mother suffers more when her child suffers than when she herself suffers. That’s the burden of friendship.

Tony Campolo tells the story of being on a landing strip in northern Haiti, waiting for a small airplane to pick him up.

As he waited, a woman approached him holding her emaciated child in her arms. She held up her child to Campolo and began to plead with him, “Take my baby! Take my baby!” she cried, “If you don’t take my baby, my baby will die!” 

Campolo tried to explain why he couldn’t take her baby, but she would not listen. When the plane finally landed and he boarded, the woman ran alongside the plane as it started to take off, the child in one arm and with the other banging on the plane. 

Halfway back to the capital, Campolo says it hit him with a force. He thought of Matthew 25, where Jesus says to the righteous, “I was hungry and you gave me something to eat. I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink … in as much as you did it to the least of these, you did it unto me.”

Then he realized that the baby was Jesus.

It feels good singing, “What a friend we have in Jesus,” doesn’t it? Who wouldn’t want to have a friend to help us bear our griefs and sorrows?

But the more important question: Does Jesus have a friend in me? Am I the friend of Jesus?

ChuckQueen is pastor of Immanuel Baptist Church in Frankfort, Ky. He blogs at AFreshPerspective.

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