What are the ways to establish rapport during presentation?

Have you ever known people who have a knack for connecting with others? No matter who they meet, they manage to create a sense of trust and understanding within minutes.

It doesn't matter what industry you're in or what position you hold – knowing how to build rapport can bring you countless opportunities. After all, when you have a rapport with someone, he or she will usually want to help you to succeed.

Some people might argue that this is all a natural gift – either you can build rapport with people or you can't. However, this is not the whole story. Rapport can develop naturally, but anyone can also nurture and improve rapport, just as they can any other skill.

So what is rapport, and how can you become skilled at developing it? We'll examine this, and more, in this article.

See the transcript for this video here!

What Is Rapport?

Rapport forms the basis of meaningful, close and harmonious relationships between people. It's the sense of connection that you get when you meet someone you like and trust, and whose point of view you understand. It's the bond that forms when you discover that you share one another's values and priorities in life.

According to researchers Linda Tickle-Degnen and Robert Rosenthal, when you have a rapport with someone, you share:

• Mutual attentiveness: you're both focused on, and interested in, what the other person is saying or doing.
• Positivity: you're both friendly and happy, and you show care and concern for one another.
• Coordination: you feel "in sync" with one another, so that you share a common understanding. Your energy levels, tone and body language are also similar.

This connection can appear instantly – when you "click" with someone – or develop slowly, over time. It can grow naturally, without intent, or you can deliberately set out to build it.

Rapport isn't just a tool for building relationships, though; it's often the foundation of success. When you have a rapport with someone, you're better placed to influence, learn and teach, particularly as the trust that you've built up means other people are more likely to accept your ideas, to share information, and to create opportunities together.

Whether you're being interviewed for a job, selling something, or trying to improve a relationship, knowing how to build rapport can help you to perform successfully.

Rapport is similar to trust. You can build trust and rapport simultaneously, but rapport focuses more on establishing a bond or connection, whereas trust relies more on establishing a reputation for reliability, consistency and keeping your promises.

How to Build Rapport

Rapport must be a two-way connection between people, so it's not something that you can create by yourself. You can, however, learn how to stimulate it by following these six steps.

Use your best judgment when applying these techniques. Be sure not to use them cynically or dishonestly, to sell people something that they wouldn't otherwise want, for example, or to manipulate them into a course of action that's against their best interests.

1. Check Your Appearance

First impressions count, and your appearance should help you to connect with people, not create a barrier. A good rule of thumb is to dress just a little "better" than the people you're about to meet. However, if you arrive and see that you're overdressed, you can quickly dress down to suit the situation.

2. Remember the Basics

Always remember the basics of good communication:

These basic tenets form the foundation of great communication. It will be hard to establish rapport without them, as they will help you to establish trust, empathy, and a feeling in people that you are listening to them.

3. Find Common Ground

Identifying common ground can help to establish rapport, so use small talk to find something that you both share.

Most people like talking about themselves, and the more genuine interest you show in them, the more likely they are to relax and "open up." Use open-ended questions to discover personal information: perhaps you attended the same college, share the same hobbies, grew up in the same city, or support the same sports team. Even just expressing your shared frustration at the traffic that delayed your journeys to work can help you to draw closer to someone.

It's important to be genuine and sincere, and to avoid overdoing things. Don't make up an interest or try too hard, just to create rapport. Not only can this seem desperate and off-putting, but it can also dent your credibility!

Tip 2:

Laughter is a great tool for building rapport, but do use humor with care. Not everyone can tell a joke, and what might seem like acceptable sarcasm to you could cause offense to somebody else. If you think there's a possibility that a comment might be taken the wrong way, don't make it.

4. Create Shared Experiences

Rapport can't grow without human interaction, and a great way to interact is to create new, shared experiences. Shared experiences can be as simple as attending the same conference session together, or as complex as cooperating on a new management process. Working collaboratively to define problems, devise solutions, and design strategies, for example, can help to bring you and the other person closer.

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How to engage effectively with your audience

By: Susan Dugdale | Last modified: 05-23-2021

"Building rapport" is the name given to the process of creating an understanding and harmonious bond between yourself and someone else.

When rapport is present you feel at ease, happy and comfortable in the other person's company. Your conversation flows effortlessly without any awkward pausing.

You've "clicked"! You feel seen for who you are: understood, respected and valued. Loved.

Rapport and public speaking

rapport [rap-pore]

noun
a sympathetic relationship or understanding [French]

Related or similar words - bond, relationship, link, tie, sympathy, harmony, affinity, empathy

For the public speaker that someone else you're seeking to build rapport with is not a single person. It's your audience, and good rapport with them, ensures your message will be actively listened to.

What happens without audience rapport

Have you ever stood in front of an audience and known you weren't being listened to? Have you watched yawns being stifled, caught people peeking at their phones or muttering quietly to their neighbors?

I have and the more I've tried to rescue the situation, often the worse it got.

So what was going on?

I get it right most of the time and count myself as a good "people" person. I like people and mostly they like me. However when they'd rather I stopped talking immediately, I am obviously missing something critical!

With reflection and analysis I discovered that something was actively building rapport.

What happens with audience rapport

Rapport is what happens when you have everything in harmony. Your speech is right. The audience receives it well. They enjoy listening to it as much as you enjoy delivering it.

However that happy harmonious state doesn't occur without conscious effort.

The elements of audience rapport

The very first thing I learned was that building rapport meant focusing on the audience. Not me, but my audience.

I had "to get over myself, to get out of my own way", to stop being the principal focus of my attention.

To achieve the synergy I pictured in my imagination I needed to tailor my presentation to fit who was listening to it.

Understanding your audience

I needed to know:

• who my audience was.  I needed to know their age range, the gender mix, their ethnicity, shared cultural values, religious or group affiliations, primary language, educational level, and how much they knew about my topic already ...
• why they were there to listen to me. Were they there because attendance was compulsory, voluntary (out of interest), to have a problem solved, or to show support ...?
• what their concerns were.  I needed to find out if the audience carried any specific issues around my topic? Were they neutral, in agreement or against it?
• what their expectations were. Did they expect a formal presentation, an opportunity to ask questions and get answers, a show and tell ...?
• what their vocabulary was. Were they familiar with the specialized vocabulary (jargon) around my topic? If I used it would I alienate them?
• what their general beliefs might be. Were they at variance with my topic? Or were they in-line or congruent?
• what they had in common with me. What do we share? Are our background experiences or living situations similar?

Then using all that information I could shape my material to genuinely meet them.

First impressions count

The other ingredient crucial to the mix was truly understanding that first impressions count.

A speaker has approximately 5-10 seconds from the time they stand up to talk to lay the foundation for empathy or good will.

In summary ...

Nine rapport builders are:

• 1. dressing and grooming appropriately for the occasion. If it's formal, you're there in smart business attire. If it's informal, the clothes you're wearing reflect that. (If in doubt ask. Don't be that person who stands out for the wrong reasons.)   
• 2. being organized, ready with suitable content. Your material is relevant, fresh, and crafted to meet the audience's needs, and the time allocation you've been given.
• 3. demonstrating in your opening statements that you know who you're talking to because you've done your homework.You've got an appropriate opening hook: a self-deprecating anecdote or personal story, a startling statistic, or an intriguing rhetorical question, that will immediately let your audience feel good about listening to you.

• 4. using inclusive language: "we" rather than "I". "I" statements emphasize separateness and distance between people. If you use too much of "I this",  "I that" and "I something else" in a speech you're likely end up alienating yourself from your audience because you will have shown yourself to be, literally, too full of yourself.

• 5. identifying and emphasizing your common ground respectfully and sincerely. When you highlight your areas of mutual experience you create trust and when there's trust, an audience is more likely listen to what you have to say. The shared experiences become stepping stones into the heart of your presentation.

• 6. avoiding jargon, including popular business jargon whose only purpose is to make the speaker and the subject they're talking about seem more complicated and elevated than it is.
  Here's a Grammarly article that covers it well: 14 business jargon phrases people love to hate.
  No more blue sky thinking, please. No more circling back, learnings, or moving of goal posts!
  The very best thing you can do with phrases like these is to mix and match them for a giggle. To that end, the people from Plain English Campaign have created a Gobbledygook generator

  .It gave me these hilariously gorgeous gobbets of ridiculous nonsense: "Our upgraded model now offers holistic transitional alignment." and "I can make a window to discuss your systemized digital options." ☺

    

• 9. understanding the full impact of your vocal delivery. How do you speak? Is your voice soft? Loud? Are your words well articulated so that everybody can understand you easily? How fast do you speak? Do you vary the speed? Do you use pauses well? What about fillers? Do you "um" or "ah"?How you use your voice directly influences how people respond to what you're saying. And there is often a very large gap between how we think we use our voices, and how we actually do.  

The gift exchange between audience and speaker

Having an audience is a privilege. Their gift to you is their presence. The gift we give in return is recognition.

Carefully building rapport carries a potent message: "I see you. I understand and respect you." It creates trust and where there's trust there is willingness to follow, to listen.

In essence building rapport is about identifying similarity. When we show an audience that we are like them, we find a mutual starting place for the shared journey of the speech.

P.S.

I discovered a couple of gems as part of learning about building audience rapport.

The first was the more I focused on the audience and their needs, the less self conscious and fearful I became as a speaker.

The second falls into the category a friend calls: "startling observations on the obvious".

It is much easier to give speeches or presentations to people we intuitively understand. These are people like ourselves and the people we make our friends.

To build rapport with people who don't share the same interests, background or beliefs we have to step out of our shoes, out of our comfort zone, and into theirs! It's harder but I think the rewards in understanding are worth the effort.

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